Torque converter clutches cause stalling at very low speed, like when the car comes to a stop. Which is why they're always disabled in first gear. They do NOT cause stalling at highway speed like you described. The trans will run hot when the converter clutch is NOT locked up, because most of the heat in a transmission is created by the fluid in the torque converter getting churned around until the molecules get dizzy. When the converter clutch is engaged, the fluid isn't being churned--so there's little heat generated.
Disabling the torque converter clutch was a TERRIBLE idea. Do not go back to the boneheads that did that unless you can get them to pay damages. (Not likely.)
Wouldn't surprise me that the trans has internal failure(s) that will require removal, disassembly, and inspection; with failed parts getting replaced.
Among the things I'd be looking at on the scan tool, would be the idle speed control's ability to actually control idle speed. There may be a way to determine if the PS pressure switch is working properly, too.